When the cold weather sets in, it seems like all I want to do is curl up with a cozy blanket, watch seasonal movies on the Hallmark channel, and stuff my face with pumpkin, eggnog, and gingerbread everything.
Like most people though, I work. I run a business, work 6 days a week (sometimes 7), and on my “day off” it’s a rare occurrence if I even get to sit down before 8pm. Needless to say, I’m not super motivated most days to give myself a blowout or wear stilettos and lipstick.
I mean, isn’t that why dry shampoo and flats were invented?
Below are some tips to help you be your loveliest self- even when you’re stressed out, distracted, or running late!
1. Be Mindful. Be Present. Be Aware.
Many of us are so wrapped up in our daily activities that we often don’t notice life happening around us. If we don’t slow down and take a moment here and there to breathe, we end up getting anxious and stressed out. We miss important events. We disappoint loved ones. We become irritable and unhappy. By learning to be fully present and aware of our surroundings, we can re-gain control of most situations and really enjoy the beauty in the things and people around us.
Becoming a mindful & aware person takes serious commitment and practice. When you discipline yourself to be truly “present” in every situation, you learn that when certain things cannot be altered, you must accept them and change your attitude/reaction towards them to create a positive outcome. You become more aware of the people around you, and their feelings. Your senses intensify. You’re able to alleviate uncomfortable situations by being attentive and understanding how people feel. You become more conscious of your environment and your health. Needless to say, this is a SERIOUS confidence booster as well!
Quiet meditation is one of the best ways to relieve stress and achieve calmness throughout your day. Try carving out at least 5 minutes in the morning, afternoon, and evening to sit quietly, distraction-free (I find sitting in the dark works best!), in complete silence. Close your eyes. Clear your mind. Let go of your worries. Be in the moment. Focus on your breathing. Just breathe.
3. Drink Lemon Water When You Wake.
A little random, maybe, but this little trick will do wonders for your mind & body! Upon waking, add the juice of 1/2 a fresh lemon to 8 ounces of lukewarm water. Studies show that consuming this beverage first thing in the morning boosts your immune system, aids in digestion, detoxifies your organs, repairs your skin, and SO much more! Be sure to wait at least 15-30 minutes before eating breakfast to give your body enough time to benefit from all of the nutrients!
4. Be Assertive.
Even if you’re not very outgoing, demonstrating confidence and boldness can be achieved in simple things like smiling often, making eye contact, asking questions, and offering a strong handshake. Don’t be afraid to leave a bold (unforgettable) impression!
5. Wear A Bra.
I’m not just talking to the ladies out there who go braless in public… I’m talking to those of you currently wearing a worn-out bra that hasn’t been washed in months, and is being held together by a safety pin. Getting a bra that fits and feels good is truly an INSTANT mood lifter and confidence booster. And not just one that fits well, but one that looks nice, too!
So put on that gorgeous bra you’ve had stored away for a special occasion, and rock your stuff any day of the week!
6. Brush Those Teeth And Wash That Face.
No matter how late you are! The worry of having bad breath can really bring down your confidence… especially around other people. Those who are self-conscious about their breath tend to smile, talk, and interact with others less. It’s re-assuring to know you won’t be THAT person in the room, so keep your mouth clean!
If you’re tempted to skip your usual face wash routine in the morning, a facial cleansing wipe will suffice in a pinch. I especially like the Yes to Cucumbers wipes… they remove dead skin & yesterday’s make-up, while the cucumbers help to reduce puffiness. Splashing your face with cool water after wiping can wake up your senses and refresh your skin! And obviously, don’t forget to moisturize!
8. Spritz Yourself.
Because smelling good can make you FEEL good! Keep in mind that fragrances last longer on clean, moist skin. If you’re in a hurry and have to skip your shower & lotion application, try washing your arms with soap and water, and applying a bit of moisturizer before spritzing your wrists. And be sure to let it air-dry… rubbing your wrists together can alter the chemicals and fragrance!
9. Fresh-Faced Make-Up
No time to do contouring and a smokey eye (I mean, really, who actually does)? Stick to the fresh-faced basics: mascara, blush, highlighter (on the inside corners of your eyes & upper cheekbones), and lip gloss. You’ll look awake and refreshed in under 5 minutes!
10. Be Genuine. Be YOU.
You cannot achieve loveliness if you are not genuinely yourself. Pretending to be something you’re not is extremely unattractive and never draws in other people. Be different. Let your freak flag fly and don’t be afraid of what other’s might think. In the words of Dr. Seuss: “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”