Update!

Hey All!

I know I’ve been MIA for the last few months – but I promise it’s for good reason!

As some of you already know, I found out that I was pregnant shortly after making my decision to close the shop in February. Although it was completely unexpected and quite a shock (I wasn’t exactly planning on having children yet – if at all), the timing honestly couldn’t have been better.

Selfie taken 05/01/15.
Selfie taken 05/01/15.

My life was already in a major transition, and this news actually fueled my fire for Lola’s future. I didn’t want to waste any time getting back to work – I knew that the sooner I started saving money, the sooner I’d be able to re-open. I immediately started full-time hours at a healthcare office I had worked for prior to starting my business. Luckily, my boss and I had kept in touch, and when I reached out to ask if I could come back to work, he took me back – no questions asked.
I’ve always taken more of a holistic approach to my health, and I encourage those around me to do the same. My work background (aside from bra fittings and lingerie, obviously) is mostly responsible for my enthusiasm in this area. I have been able to watch several people with various ailments, disorders, and diseases find health and happiness without drugs or surgery. Even kids with ADHD, asthma and allergies, or people suffering from depression, anxiety or digestive disorders. Being able to help them get better again (and not by covering up their problems with medication), has made my transition from the owner of a rewarding company back to an employee much easier. It’s truly a part of who I am and I am happy to still be able to help change lives every day!

My view this morning!

About two weeks into my new work schedule, my boyfriend Sean and I moved out of our condo in Grayslake and into a beautiful lakefront home in Antioch. Although we had been seriously discussing the possibility of moving out of state (Seattle) for a while, this new house was more than enough to make us stay! Moving while pregnant and working was a bit difficult to manage, but we pulled it off (we’re still unpacking 6 weeks later…) and we are really looking forward to enjoying this summer on the chain!

Goodbye Lola’s Grayslake!

And that’s about it in a nutshell.
Even though I really miss Lola’s boutique, I miss my clients more.
Many of you have been asking where to go for bras now that Lola’s is gone, and I absolutely recommend going to La Bellissima in Crystal Lake. Kathy, the owner, is simply amazing and her selection is outstanding!

On another happy note, I have finally begun work on Lola’s private shopping website, getting it ready again for online sales! I plan to re-launch in June (if you’re on our mailing list, you’ll get an e-mail with a coupon!) with much faster and better service. I’ve also got a few event ideas up my sleeve for the summer as well – I can’t wait to share!

 

Stay tuned, lovelies!

XOXO,
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P.S. Our baby girl is due September 21st. Looks like I’ll have someone to take over the family business! ;)

Men’s Guide To Lingerie Shopping

Using surveys and feedback from my clients, I’ve put together a guide to help men with lingerie gift shopping this holiday season.
Here are some tips – straight from the mouths of women – just for you, gentlemen…

1. Observe.1b55f001d19f936e2177290540d7eec1
Try to pay attention to what she wears every day under her clothes – to work, at home, or out on a date. Does she wear the same bra day after day? Does she complain about them being uncomfortable or not fitting properly? Does she own alot of lingerie that she doesn’t wear? Maybe she wants more of her favorite bra? Maybe she needs a professional bra fitting? The answer to these questions will clue you in on what she really needs… and ultimately, what she’ll actually wear when it comes to lingerie.

2. Understand That Your Idea Of Sexy May Not Be Her Idea Of Sexy.
When you hear the word “lingerie”, what’s the first thing that comes to mind? A sheer nightie? Thigh highs and a strappy corset? Boyshorts and a tank? Although men’s preferences vary, most are drawn to garments that show the most skin, and unfortunately, this is not what most women want to wear. If you want to send her confidence through the roof and make her feel incredibly sexy, look for lingerie that compliments her body.
Keep reading to learn how…

3. Never, ever, EVER Guess Her Size.
If you are unsure of your partner’s size, DO NOT just take a guess. This will likely have a disastrous outcome. A few ways you can determine her size is:

  • Check some of the tags in her clothing AND lingerie wardrobe. Make sure you’re checking items she currently wears, not items that have been hanging untouched in her closet for years.
  • Ask her sister or best friend for her sizes. Chances are, they have shopped together and/or discussed sizing at one point or another.
  • If she frequents any specific stores or boutiques, call and see if they keep customer sizing information on file. Many do!

4. Explore Her Likes & Dislikes.
You’ve most likely heard your partner comment on the things she dislikes about her body… Most women are terrible at keeping these things to ourselves. If you can’t recall any, try to observe her clothing preferences instead. Examine what she actually wears, not just what’s hanging in her closet. Is it mostly loose-fitting blouses? Skinny jeans? Short skirts? Snug t-shirts? Baggy pants? Her clothing preferences are a great indicator for which body parts she likes to flaunt, and which ones she likes to hide.

IF SHE LIKES TO HIDE HER BELLY
She may wear tops that drape or fit loosely, dresses, and large belts or sashes over her outfits. She may also wear shapewear (although you might never see it). Stay away from sheer and/or clingy fabrics. Try these options:

  • Sexy babydolls that drape or hang:

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Empire Waist Babydoll

  • Sexy shaping pieces like bustiers/corsets, and high-waist garter skirts:
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IF SHE LIKES TO HIDE HER HIPS AND/OR THIGHS
She may wear loose-fitting pants, wide-legged slacks, or skirts. Also possibly thigh-slimming shapewear under her clothing. Stay away from super short garments and stringy panties. Try these options:

  • Longer chemises/gowns/robes

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

  • Garter skirts & dresses:
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OTHER SAFE ALTERNATIVES
If you are unsure as to what parts of her body she may or may not like, these sexy options are safe for most body issues. Robes and kimonos, sexy men’s or night shirts, and pajama sets with feminine details like lace or ribbon trims. The softer and more luxurious the fabrics, the better!!!
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5. Let Her Choose Her Gift.
A gift card is an excellent option when shopping for undergarments and apparel. Although it may seem a bit impersonal, there are many ways to spice up a shop-for-yourself gift:

  • Pair it with a photo of the item(s) you have in mind. If she recieves a gift card with a specific idea of something sexy you’d like to see her in, your chances of her actually wearing it (or something similar) are way higher.
  • Package it with a related item or accessory. For example, we typically gift wrap a gift certificate with a sexy panty, pheromone infused lingerie wash, or a massage candle. Something to enhance the intimate ambience.
  • Scratch the gift card and take her shopping yourself! Make a fun date out of it… surprise her with a shopping spree followed by dinner or drinks.
    (Check out our new Couple’s Holiday Shopping offer!)

6. Don’t Be Afraid To Go ALL OUT.
I once had a man-client pull off this AMAZINGLY romantic and elaborate gift for his soon-to-be-fiance. He set up an entire day as a scavenger hunt with clues at each location leading to her next activity. She got a massage, a manicure & pedicure, a shopping spree for lingerie, hair & make-up styling, and a wardrobe styling session complete with a dress & pair of shoes. After this full day of pampering, her last clue led to a restaurant where her man was waiting for her (with a ring!).
Although this idea was planned for a proposal, something like this could be easily done as an extra special gift anytime!

7. Remember, It’s The Thought That Means Most.
Taking the time to figure out her size, preferences, and favorite things is truly a gift in itself. Putting forth effort to make sure that your purchase is something she’ll absolutely love means more than the gift itself. If you put your heart into her gift, she’ll know. THIS, gentlemen, is how you can ensure your gift will be a complete success!

Please visit Lola’s Fitting Room, Co. for more tips and ideas, or to purchase some of the items/services mentioned above!

Self(ie)-Sabotage

Everyone is beautiful.
This phrase, although utilized in most body image campaigns around the world, doesn’t quite convey the positive “love yourself” message originally intended. Beauty, by definition, is “the quality of being physically attractive”, and by saying EVERYONE possesses this quality, it loses it’s value.
I recently came across this hilariously candid article called “Not Everyone Is Beautiful“, and completely agreed with the writer’s thoughts on this topic.  wrote, 
beautiful-life-quote-life-quotes-quote-quotes-you-are-beautiful-Favim.com-65671“Everyone is not beautiful. Some of us have tumors the size of a second head growing out of our ears. Some of us have skin like the Michelin man. Some of us lose fingers, legs, or eyes in horrific factory accidents. We have warts and blemishes and hair loss and dead teeth and lazy eyes and cleft palates and third nipples and unibrows.” Urban Dictionary‘s description of this phrase is right in line with Biberdorf’s statement: “A very naive, cliche and opinionated phrase, that is overused in modern society. This phrase is only an opinion because everyone has a different idea of beauty and not everyone is going to be considered attractive by everyone”.
If it’s true that beauty is merely an opinion, then why is this word and/or phrase being used as encouragement to help people establish self love and acceptance in the first place? In reality, beauty is one of the least significant parts of being a human. It doesn’t bring us success in our careers or happiness in our relationships. It doesn’t bring us passion, dedication, love, or motivation… and it certainly doesn’t affect our spirituality or inspire us to change the world. So what does beauty REALLY matter??? What does it DO?
Well, it makes people unhappy. It makes people feel inadequate.
Because really, not everyone is “beautiful”.

Society loves to point fingers when it comes to issues like these. Let’s blame low self-esteem on Photoshop, the media, ad campaigns, and runway models, instead of looking at the real cause of our body shame – US.
Glamour Magazine recently conducted a survey to find out how women really feel about their bodies. Among the results, the most shocking was that 64% of the women surveyed said that looking at photos of their peers on social media makes them feel bad about themselves. One of these women, Bethany Everett, 27, said, “with actresses, I know they have a personal chef and trainer and it’s their job to have the bodies they do—I don’t have any real expectations of looking like them.”.
It’s rare, these days, to see photos & images that have not been altered in some way. And we’re not just talking about the stuff you see on television or in magazines anymore… This applies to your children, your friends, your co-workers, and maybe even yourself.
With free photo-editing apps and programs available that claim to help you “put your best face forward”, we are now able to smooth wrinkles & blemishes, add make-up, remove cellulite, change the color of our eyes, slim our waists, and more – all with a swipe of a finger. It’s one thing to erase a pimple or remove red eyes, but now people have the power to completely alter the way they look (at least in the virtual world). Glamour also revealed (in the same survey) that up to 60% of women use photo-editors to crop, filter, and re-touch their photos. SIXTY PERCENT!!! It’s no wonder bodyIMG_8103 image issues are so rampant these days. WE are the ones intensifying the Hollywood photoshop epidemic by setting our own unattainable beauty standards. How are we supposed to distinguish what’s real and what’s not?
To prove my point, here is a selfie I took yesterday while sitting at my desk. I used the popular FaceTune app to smooth my skin, and then layered two different filters over it to produce the finished image on the right. In the original photo, my dark circles, wrinkles and uneven skin tone are very obvious. I look tired, blotchy and pasty. In the image on the right, however, my skin is flawless and glowing, and my eyes, make-up & hair color are further enhanced with richer colors (thanks to the filters).
With this ability to virtually upgrade/perfect our physical appearances, we are only setting ourselves up to feel worse, not better, about our bodies (by the way, does this make anyone else think of that Bruce Willis movie, Surrogates??? Well, minus the whole robot thing…). And for what?!

Beauty has no real power…but guess what.

YOU DO.

Biberdorf  says, “Let go of ‘beautiful’. Not everyone can be beautiful, just like not everyone can climb Everest or play the saxophone or be a good kisser.”.
Good point… we are all given gifts and talents, whether we’re born with them or develop them over time. The unfortunate thing is that many of us are so preoccupied with appearances, and so afraid of failure & rejection that we never discover what those unique abilities are. “What’s so toxic about all of this,” says Jesse Fox, Ph.D, “is that for many women, weight and body shape are tethered to who they fundamentally are as a person—tied to their success at work, in relationships, everything. Which means, if you feel bad about your body, you feel bad about who you are at the core.”
Loving yourself isn’t just a feeling or a state of mind. It’s not looking in the mirror and thinking “I look good today”. It’s an action. It requires effort. It’s about creating a healthy and happy body & mind. It’s about doing things to better yourself and others. It’s about becoming a person you LIKE, and accomplishing things you’re proud of.
Once people begin to realize that each and every one of us has a purpose (and it’s NOT to “be beautiful”), we can begin to establish our own worth and value. Stop letting your appearance hold you back. If you are unhappy with the body you were given, you have two options – plain and simple:
1. If you can’t improve the things you don’t like, you must accept them as-is. Period. You’re not going to be given a new body, so make the most of what you’ve got. Own it. Love it.
2. If you can improve the things you don’t like, DO IT! And QUIT making excuses to start.
Pick an option, and move on. Let go. This life is yours to live, and no one else is going to live it for you. 

10 Simple Ways To Be Lovely (Even When You’re Lazy)

When the cold weather sets in, it seems like all I want to do is curl up with a cozy blanket, watch seasonal movies on the Hallmark channel, and stuff my face with pumpkin, eggnog, and gingerbread everything.
Like most people though, I work. I run a business, work 6 days a week (sometimes 7), and on my “day off” it’s a rare occurrence if I even get to sit down before 8pm. Needless to say, I’m not super motivated most days to give myself a blowout or wear stilettos and lipstick.
I mean, isn’t that why dry shampoo and flats were invented?

Below are some tips to help you be your loveliest self- even when you’re stressed out, distracted, or running late!

1. Be Mindful. Be Present. Be Aware.164462540
Many of us are so wrapped up in our daily activities that we often don’t notice life happening around us. If we don’t slow down and take a moment here and there to breathe, we end up getting anxious and stressed out. We miss important events. We disappoint loved ones. We become irritable and unhappy. By learning to be fully present and aware of our surroundings, we can re-gain control of most situations and really enjoy the beauty in the things and people around us.
Becoming a mindful & aware person takes serious commitment and practice. When you discipline yourself to be truly “present” in every situation, you learn that when certain things cannot be altered, you must accept them and change your attitude/reaction towards them to create a positive outcome. You become more aware of the people around you, and their feelings. Your senses intensify. You’re able to alleviate uncomfortable situations by being attentive and understanding how people feel. You become more conscious of your environment and your health. Needless to say, this is a SERIOUS confidence booster as well!

2. Meditate.
Quiet meditation is one of the best ways to relieve stress and achieve calmness throughout your day. Try carving out at least 5 minutes in the morning, afternoon, and evening to sit quietly, distraction-free (I find sitting in the dark works best!), in complete silence. Close your eyes. Clear your mind. Let go of your worries. Be in the moment. Focus on your breathing. Just breathe.

3. Drink Lemon Water When You Wake.
A little random, maybe, but this little trick will do wonders for your mind & body! Upon waking, add the juice of 1/2 a fresh lemon to 8 ounces of lukewarm water. Studies show that consuming this beverage first thing in the morning boosts your immune system, aids in digestion, detoxifies your organs, repairs your skin, and SO much more! Be sure to wait at least 15-30 minutes before eating breakfast to give your body enough time to benefit from all of the nutrients!

4. Be Assertive.
Even if you’re not very outgoing, demonstrating confidence and boldness can be achieved in simple things like smiling often, making eye contact, asking questions, and offering a strong handshake. Don’t be afraid to leave a bold (unforgettable) impression!

andorra-5675-full-cup-bra_5674-short-lagoon5. Wear A Bra.
I’m not just talking to the ladies out there who go braless in public… I’m talking to those of you currently wearing a worn-out bra that hasn’t been washed in months, and is being held together by a safety pin. Getting a bra that fits and feels good is truly an INSTANT mood lifter and confidence booster. And not just one that fits well, but one that looks nice, too!
So put on that gorgeous bra you’ve had stored away for a special occasion, and rock your stuff any day of the week!

6. Brush Those Teeth And Wash That Face.
No matter how late you are! The worry of having bad breath can really bring down your confidence… especially around other people. Those who are self-conscious about their breath tend to smile, talk, and interact with others less. It’s re-assuring to know you won’t be THAT person in the room, so keep your mouth clean!
If you’re tempted to skip your usual face wash routine in the morning, a facial cleansing wipe will suffice in a pinch. I especially like the Yes to Cucumbers wipes… they remove dead skin & yesterday’s make-up, while the cucumbers help to reduce puffiness. Splashing your face with cool water after wiping can wake up your senses and refresh your skin! And obviously, don’t forget to moisturize!

8. Spritz Yourself.
Because smelling good can make you FEEL good! Keep in mind that fragrances last longer on clean, moist skin. If you’re in a hurry and have to skip your shower & lotion application, try washing your arms with soap and water, and applying a bit of moisturizer before spritzing your wrists. And be sure to let it air-dry… rubbing your wrists together can alter the chemicals and fragrance!

rebecca-1-wide9. Fresh-Faced Make-Up
No time to do contouring and a smokey eye (I mean, really, who actually does)? Stick to the fresh-faced basics: mascara, blush, highlighter (on the inside corners of your eyes & upper cheekbones), and lip gloss. You’ll look awake and refreshed in under 5 minutes!

10. Be Genuine. Be YOU.
You cannot achieve loveliness if you are not genuinely yourself. Pretending to be something you’re not is extremely unattractive and never draws in other people. Be different. Let your freak flag fly and don’t be afraid of what other’s might think. In the words of Dr. Seuss: “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”

Winterizing Your Under-Wardrobe

As the air gets colder, the days get shorter, and we begin to unpack the sweaters and jackets we’ve had stored away all summer, let’s not forget to assess our under-things too!

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Gone are the days of breezy t-shirts and tanks – unless you’re wearing them under a cozy knit top, that is. Those smooth t-shirt bras you wore every day during the summer can finally get a break, while you rock those pretty lacy and 3-part cup bras you love! When wearing layers and thicker/textured tops, you’re able to get away with quite a bit when it comes to bras. A winter favorite at Lola’s is the Prima Donna Madison 3-Part Cup. Although most of our clients wear this bra year-round (it lays so smooth and fits like a dream!), this one always seems to get extra attention during the colder months.
If you’re like me, however, and prefer to wear t-shirt bras ALL year long, try expanding your selection by adding some fun colors or prints. I like to wear my funky leopard/floral prints and bright colors under sweaters and knits in the winter. It helps keep my summer spunk alive despite the chilly weather!

SHAPEWEAR & SPECIAL OCCASION.
Wacoal-805171-3‘Tis the season for holiday celebrations, family gatherings, and office parties. Whether you’re wearing a business suit, cocktail dress, or a knockout gown, it’s important to make sure you’re prepared with the right foundations!
As with bras, shapewear has the power to make or break an outfit. The best way to determine what you might need under a certain ensemble, is to check yourself out in different lighting scenarios. Even better – have someone take a picture of you (with the flash on), so you can see what you’re working with.
One basic piece that (I think) every woman should own, is a high-waist slimming short. This style is so diverse… it can be worn under your every day clothing, as well as party and formal attire. My favorite is the Wacoal iPant (image on the left), which features seamless edges and firm paneling for a smooth, slimming look! vabien-the-minus-touch-strapless-keyhole-bodysuit-516
If you’re in the market for something a bit more heavy duty and/or multi-functional, you might want to opt for a bodysuit. Our current best seller is the VaBien Seamless Molded Bodysuit (image on the right), which can be strapless, and has additional boning throughout the mid-section!

Whatever you wear this winter, ladies, wear it with confidence! Remember – everyone struggles with body-image issues (yes, even celebrities and runway models), but don’t let that hold you back. Be that girl on fire whose beauty radiates from the inside out!